Brothers and sisters we have been raised and taught to live and be like whatever popular society tells us and it’s time for us to be an independent people, use our common sense and think for ourselves.
If you are honest with yourself you know you don’t want to be alone for the rest of your life and you don’t like the way being lonely feels… Nobody does. Now if you’re a pet person or you consume all of your time and life into working that’s fine. Or if you are not Godly I’m not talking to you.
But for anyone of God who wants a strong lifelong relationship hear me out…
God is love, Correct? And God doesn't change, Correct? So that means love doesn't change either, Correct? So the old age love and the new age love is no agreement that it's the love that held relationships together back in the day that will hold your relationships together today.
If you don’t have love you don’t have God in your relationship and vise versa.
The main three things you need in a relationship healthy lifelong relationship is to prioritize God first, love&respect and have a mutual goal which should be to take care of your family first and always look for ways to help each other moving as one body.
We already know how we should put God first. So let’s start with love. What is love? 1 Corinthians 13:3-8 tells us exactly how to love each other which also describes how a husband should love his wife according to Ephesians 5:25-29. 1 John 5:3 tells us how to love God which is also how a wife should love her husband according to Ephesians 5:22-33.
Next is the mutual goal. Family first means taking care of your household making sure everyone has what they need by being responsible of your individual roles while being mindful of each others tasks and work load. Today we take on the same responsibilities and tasks sometimes due to economic difficulties and lifestyle instabilities. Whereas back in the day men did the dangerous and hard duties and women stayed home busy doing other tasks like shopping, cleaning, cooking, selling and buying things for the household etc. Today if one can’t work the other one may have to work extra. One may have to stay up with the baby while the other one rests. That’s why you have to constantly look for ways to help each other make sure the family is straight. It’s not equal ever. You take care of each other period. If one cooks the other offers to wash the dishes. One cleans up and the other takes out the trash. There are benefits to having a man in the house and there are benefits to having a woman in the house. Not just with everyday things but especially when you have kids.
No relationship should be one sided meaning a man does all this and a woman does all that. You both take care of each the household however you can. There are only a few exceptions when it comes to roles of a husband and wife.
The only roles in a relationship are a man is the decision maker of the household and has the final say. Which means he needs to be trust worthy and have good judgment meaning he follows God. He needs to provide safety and security for his family to flourish. A woman is the environment of the household meaning she upholds her husband’s laws which should be accordingly to God’s laws. She nurtures, manages and multiplies everything her husband provides (money, house, kids etc) including what she brings to the table. She needs to be aware and ready to take initiative to help her husband. That’s it as far as roles go.
We know what the qualities are of a Godly man and a Godly woman but we settle when we don’t hold each other and ourselves accountable then blame each other when the relationship ends in divorce.
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